Opening doors

I bumped into a friend today grocery shopping. Like all other days, there is a conversation about the happenings in the world and our community. She leaned in and whispered that a couple in our neighborhood had separated. I had a flood of thoughts and feelings come over me. First, was this how the news spread that I my relationship had ended in front of the deli counter at Safeway? Secondly, am I suppose to feel relieved that there is someone else that has joined my special club of misery? What I really felt was compassion for this couple and their children. It has taken me a year to come through a very difficult time. One that I would not change as I have finally figured out who I am. But its not something I would not wish on anyones family. As they say, when one door closes another one opens. Unfortunately with a marriage break up, two things need to happen. You need to close the door, on friends, relatives, and your life plan. Then.. most importantly, you need to figure out how to open the next door. This is the scary part. I took me a year. I just needed to figure out how to turn the handle and walk through all on my own


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