It isn't what it is

"It is what it is"  why is this saying so popular?  I hear it all the time.  It is the new catch phrase like when 24/7, or gag me with a spoon.   However, this particular saying really bothers me for some reason.   It is like accepting the circumstances or saying you can't change the outcome of the "what".  I need to change my what's around here.   I am tired of being inside of  "it is what it is".  I just decided after a teary phone call with a friend that -it isn't what it is because I am willing to change it.    I get overwhelmed with stuff, which I am tonight.  I looked to far into my calendar which was just to the weekend and I feel overloaded.  Changing my " what" is  changing the schedule and asking for help.   Summer are suppose to be lazy and carefree, but someone forgot to tell my kids.   I want to gag myself with a spoon 24/7 right now....