The Sea

There is a real power in the sea that I find so fascinating. I spent a few minutes down at the beach this morning after meditation. I explored all of the shells, and miscellaneous items such as shoes washed up on shore. Each has its own story on how it was lost or where it came from. Handmade items such as the square, was made by someone for a specific reason, and now lies on the beach of a resort. We had a huge bon fire and the sea has washed it away without a trace of the 40 people that stood the night before sharing stories. The sea is a great example in life, clearing away what is not needed and placing new items to explore.

New Christmas Traditions

Christmas is steep in tradition, and when our tradition gets messed with a internal pity party begins.    It doesn’t matter if it is divorce, marriage, or new relationship, when it comes to big holidays things change.. As humans we are creatures of habit.   My test today was finding our new family tradition.  The girls are off to Hawaii on Thursday for Christmas and New Years without me (don’t feel sorry for me I am leaving town too) So in the spirit of the season we celebrated today what Christmas is all about to our little family.  Last week,  we sent Santa a letter requesting an early drop off and he happily obliged.  He understands the modern family.   Grandma arrived with treats, our stockings were opened and our gifts were exchange.  The girls surprised me with tickets to “The Wizard of Oz”.   It was the most thoughtful gift they could have given me.  Family time is rare, but when I get to wear my own Dorothy ruby red stiletto's,  it sends it to epic.    Thank you girls for reminding me that Christmas is about family, love and a touch of silly.  It’s not just a day.. It was our Christmas day.     Here is the Christmas photo.   Now that is priceless!

Crazy busy in December

I heard it again today that term “crazy busy” and my new favorite, “if I could only get through this season”. Which is completely opposite to what the “season” should be about. I thought Christmas was about peace on earth. However, as we are all discovering, that there is no peace in December. The Christmas cards are arriving in my mailbox and there is mixed pleasure. I love getting snail mail from friends and then a ting of guilt fills me. I just can’t seem to find time to do my own Christmas cards. Not to mention Christmas baking. Why is Christmas and sugar so tied together? Now heard through the female community are desperate cries for dresses, as our winter weight has found our hips. This is a not new phenomenon to the body, it usually corresponds to the Christmas parties and the baking plates at every place coffee is served. There is no peace in this season.... We really should do something about that...

No drama in 2012

  December is officially the end of the year.  And as always it comes with my list of all the stuff that just didn’t get done...AGAIN...  like my Closets, painting my house and it was another year that I didn’t pull a weed in my garden.  I am now already jumping into the new year, trying to leave my unfinished to do list in 2010.   I am not a new years resolution person,   I know that resolutions gets forgotten in January... But I  can reflect on my last year and I know that in 2012, I am not continuing with anything that caused me drama or brought me unkindness.  Maybe Revenue Canada will understand when I tell them “Sorry, can’t talk..its my new years resolution...  you are causing me drama and unkindness”...

tis the season

 Christmas seems to be getting bigger every year.  Music starts earlier, Santa arrives first day of December in the mall, and we race around looking for the perfect gift for our loved ones.  I was a zombie today wandering in and out of stores.  I came across a entire section of plates glasses, silverware and serving dishes with Santas face on them.  It is one dinner a year, and now I require special seasonal kitcenware?    As I was digging through my Christmas box, I found a quote from last year and it sums up what we all need to give ourselves instead of large credit card bills in January:

“Simply wrapped is forgiveness, a gift that allows me to let go of my past mistakes, and give myself permission to make new mistakes everyday.  This I give myself so I can learn that perfection is but a dream.  I am not, nor do I need to strive to be perfect”

So put down the Santa plates, forgive yourself if your Christmas dinner table is not out of a Martha Stewart magazine and enjoy the true meaning of the season on your old dishes.  

Moving on through divorce

My dear friends wrote a book and today was its official launch. It really is cool to be able to say..” Ya I know the author” .... I am just so hip and happening. Well not so much... During the speeches today I hear “ There is a book in everyone” ya right I thought, I takes courage to write it down. Well not to mention finding a editor, putting it in print and of course finding people who want to read it. But courage, is a great word to describe Kerry and Howard Parsons. They have developed a program called Moving on through divorce. It is about standing up, finding out who you are, and moving forward in your life. They have been a incredible inspiration to me. Congratulation Kerry & Howard, there are many of us out there that are in a better place because you decided to make moving on through divorce your life work.
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Moving On Through Divorce

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Skeletons wear skinny jeans

It is  the start of December and it is slowly creeping towards Christmas.  I am very thankful that this crazy year is about to end.   For many of us a real shift happened  and life has taken some wild turns.   Looking back through my life, I can pin point when my life turned a corner for good or bad.  Sometimes I didn’t realize when it was happening, but this time I know.   Its about to turn a BIG corner.  With a fresh year about to start, I am going to walk slower this December and make sure I put to rest everything that is not coming with me on my new adventure in 2012.   It is like cleaning out the personal closets and letting all the skeletons out.   I guess I can get rid of my skinny jeans too, all my skeletons will need something to wear.